This past Sunday we concluded our series “Chemistry” and challenged ourselves to not simply learn how to love, but to practice it. In order to facilitate this we laid out a process for us to walk through as we move forward. The process calls us to create a plan.

It begins with understanding where we are in our love for those around us. This doesn’t require a romantic relationship. You can identify any relationship. From there you begin.

When you look at what we’ve talked about, these four fundamental elements of love, how are you doing? On the worksheet rate your relationship as it pertains to these four areas.

Rate the four in order of strength (1 to 4 with 1 being the weakest):

Character
Commitment
Chemistry
Intimacy

Next, write out a dream for the lowest two (Write it as if it is true of you from the perspective of the other person).

Example: My wife truly knows me. She’s aware of my flaws, my passions, my fears and my love. We have a deep and intimate connection.

When you have the dream written. Write out three action steps for each of the two areas.

Example:
I’m going to share my heart in one way every day when I get home.
I’m going to express my passion for her with one action every week.
I’m going to be honest about how us not being able to have kids is impacting me.

Finally, ask someone besides your spouse to hold you accountable.

Now put this plan somewhere for you to review this on a weekly basis personally.

Example: I review it every Thursday before I leave work.

The more we can keep this fresh on our mind the better we will become at truly loving those around us the way Christ has loved us. Enjoy!

Relationship Worksheet