
They’ve been there for plenty of special moments — 1Day, baptisms and other celebrations. But our Hoboken Grace T-shirts need a makeover, and we want YOU to be a part of making it happen. It’s time for new shirts! And this time, they’ll be designed by you!

That’s right — we’re holding a T-shirt design contest. All entries must include Hoboken Grace’s website and logo (found [here](https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B7YDNnTeJ0RPVlhBaU9IWmVSUjQ) and [here](https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B7YDNnTeJ0RPZUhEclZRZDJJSm8)). The rest is up to you! The winning entry will be printed on hundreds of shirts, worn all over Hoboken.

To enter, send a link or low-resolution image of your design to info@hobokengrace.com. Subject line should read “T-shirt contest.” All entries must be submitted by Friday, Sept. 30.


Design Hoboken Grace’s Next T-shirt!

What would it look like to actually live life without fear? So much of our lives are lived in response to the fears that haunt us. What would it look like to finally be free?

Join us this Sunday, Sept. 11, as we start our new series Fearless. It’s a conversation you won’t want your friends to miss. Invite someone today!

Click [here](http://hobokengrace.com/sunday/#locations) for a list of service times.


Beginning This Sunday


His thumb-sucking picked up the pace and his long eyelashes were blinking too quickly. “I don’t want Papa to die.”

That moment when your child innocently exposes your inner monologue.

He had overheard us talking. My dad is battling an aggressive meningioma. That’s a fancy way of saying brain tumor. It’s malignant. Cancer. He has already survived three craniotomies and reached the lifetime threshold of radiation for the human body. He is without eyesight in his right eye, and we had just received the news that he will be completely blind within a matter of months. Despite the best care in the country, the tumor was growing again. There would be no more operations. There would be no more radiation. There is simply nothing else that can be done.

So there I laid in all of my brokenness.

I had a choice to make. I could pour all of my own anxieties on my child by averting a discussion that would be difficult for me. Or I could use this as an opportunity to calm his fears by asserting my own faith in God. My heart wanted to comfort him, but my mind was numb. I expected to bury my face in my hands and sob. But I didn’t. Instead I heard myself telling my children about the wonders of heaven like the greatest fairy tale ever told. Or maybe they were the storytellers? I don’t remember. We talked about how beautiful it will be. Together we imagined what it will look like with pearly white gates and streets paved with gold. We remembered the truth that Jesus will be waiting for us, and we daydreamed of the first time we will be able to gaze into God’s eyes and feel his comforting embrace. We delighted in our belief that we will all be together again, surrounded by people who only love, free of sin. As I held my children tightly, I felt God’s arms around me like a gigantic hug at just the right time.

I had wanted to run. But God drew me in closer. He wanted to show me that I was not alone in my pain. I felt my sadness give way to hopefulness.

You can imagine the intense joy that I felt when I had a later opportunity to deliver the news that we have witnessed God perform a miracle in our very own family! The same neurosurgeon who had released my dad just three months earlier called him back for one last checkup, only to discover no signs of tumor growth. There is no medical explanation. It is almost unbelievable. It can only be interpreted as the power of prayer. God had taken my brokenness and not only strengthened my own faith in Him, but also gave me an opportunity to teach my children about the power of prayer and sing His glories loudly to anyone who will listen.

There are a few conversations that almost all parents dread. (Where do babies come from? I don’t want to die. And, for me, can we get a puppy?) I’m here to remind you that you’ve got this! Well, no. No, you don’t. At least I didn’t. But God did — as he always does!

_Stay tuned for more blog posts about parenting. You can also join us on Sept. 15 for Breathing Room, a night out for parents. [Click here](http://hobokengrace.com/parents/) for tickets._


Parenting’s Dreaded Conversations

Looking to grow in your understanding of God’s word and how it applies to your life? One of the many [Next Steps available at Hoboken Grace this fall](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/think-big-fall/) is the nine-week Story Study series — four courses exploring Genesis, John, Acts and Romans.

Each class will break down a book sentence by sentence, while also looking at these stories in a larger context — allowing you to see the role they play in God’s story and your story.

With just a few weeks before the Story Studies kick off, we asked each instructor what you’ll get out of their class.

**Amy (leading the [Genesis study](https://hobokengrace.churchcenteronline.com/registrations/events/24169), Sundays, 9:30-10:30 a.m.)**

When I started to follow Christ, I realized I needed to know more of who He is and who He says I am. I grew up going to church and hearing Bible stories in Sunday School, but I never really read the Bible for myself until I was in my 30s.

After deciding I wanted to follow Him with my life, I realized I needed to know more of who He is and who He says I am. As I began to read the Bible, I discovered it was exciting, and the more I got to know God, the more I wanted to know Him better. I needed to know what God said about things so that I could follow Him. Without studying His word for myself, I was really just depending on who others said He was and what He could do.

I now have the exciting opportunity to teach Sunday Studies and watch others discover more of who He is. I have loved watching the people in the classes become more aware of God’s love for them and witnessing the actions that truth has led them to take in their own lives. I encourage anyone who has a desire to know Him more to join one of the Studies. You don’t have to have any previous Bible knowledge or you can come with plenty of Bible knowledge. God always shows us something more when we are in His word.

**Jason (leading the [Acts study](https://hobokengrace.churchcenteronline.com/registrations/events/24165), Sundays, 11 a.m.-12 p.m.)**

Jesus has just returned to the Father, and his band of early followers are left to wonder how they will accomplish the goal of spreading the good news about Him to the entire world. Starting from this point, the book of Acts tells the story of the early church — its beginnings, its challenges and its amazing growth. This study will walk through the text, focusing not only on the history of the early church, but how this story impacts our lives today.

**![DSC_0601](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/08/DSC_0601-e1472617571983.jpg)Rob (leading the [John study](https://hobokengrace.churchcenteronline.com/registrations/events/24171), Wednesdays, 8-9:30 p.m.)**

Sometimes life throws you a curve ball, and it can feel like everything is falling apart. In that moment, many believers are drawn to prayer and the Bible for guidance. But sometimes, the emotions of the challenging time make it hard to think clearly.

N. T. Wright describes the virtues of Bible study like this, as he comments on Romans 12:2’s concept of renewing the mind: “Here, in fact, is one of the major differences between virtue ethics and other schemes of thought: the thinking is front-loaded. A person relying on a duty- or rule-based ethic, faced with a challenge or dilemma, needs to think on the spot: Is there a rule? Is there a duty? A person following a spontaneity ethic, of course, won’t want to think at all. For someone developing a virtue ethic, on the other hand, the hard thinking has already been done some time before a particular crisis or challenge presents itself. The character has been formed by conscious choice and habit. Whether or not there is time for thought, the emergency will be met and dealt with.”

And so, in a weekly Story Study, we are able to work and talk together as a group about some of the key wisdom of the Christian faith. As we wrestle with these ideas together, we are front-loading the thinking, developing a deeper relationship with God that we can and will draw on whenever life’s challenges come our way.

**Chris High Sr. (leading the [Romans study](https://hobokengrace.churchcenteronline.com/registrations/events/24291), Tuesdays, 8-9 p.m.)**  
Opening a present that is too good to be true. Many of us have accepted the gospel and carry it around with us. We talk of how precious the present is to us, how hard it is to live by, how we need to be better at living it out. But if you do not understand Romans, you probably have never opened it. In this class we open Romans in a way [that will change you](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/famous-for-faith/) forever. You will experience the goodness of God in ways you did not know were possible. You will discover a grace that will transform you from the inside out. You will grasp the argument of Romans and how the pieces all fit together so you can use this present the rest of your life. All of which will leave you saying, “This is too good to be true.”

_To learn more about the Story Study classes and other Next Steps at Hoboken Grace, [click here](http://hobokengrace.com/nextsteps/)._


Dive Into a Book This Fall


Whether you’re in the midst of back-to-school shopping or just clinging to these last few days of August, the arrival of fall always seems to usher in transition. Of course, there are the obvious signs: shelves freshly stocked with new pens and pocket folders, [invitations for apple picking](https://www.facebook.com/events/342603382794840/). But fall brings slower change, too: lawns and gardens start to lose their green, boots gradually replace flip-flops in the morning swarm to the PATH.

The currents of fall seem to offer an invitation of transformation, of life changes or just a shift outside what we’ve grown comfortable with. The poets and the falling leaves remind us this is a season of maturing, of shedding the old to make room for the new. The colors of parks, farmers markets and fashion shows urge us that this is the season to live life more boldly. The coffee shops tell us to add spice to our lattes. Fall, it seems, is a season for stepping outside our comfort zones, an opportunity to transform our perspectives and embrace new rhythms.

But life’s shifts and our attempts to usher them in (dieting or budgeting, for example) require seasons of transition and intentionality. As Pastor Chris said on Sunday, becoming the people we want to be — and experiencing the shift between feeding ourselves and feeding others — means thinking big. It means asking big. It means pursuing things that are bigger than ourselves. Like fall itself, it’s an invitation to inch outside your comfort zone and live life more boldly — until one day, you wake up and realize the difference. Suddenly, summer is winter. And before you know it, everything has changed.

Here are seven ways to think bigger this fall:

**1). Invest in community**

As Pastor Chris said Sunday, dinner groups aren’t about what we get out of them — they’re about growing together around one table. Dinner groups are where a dozen or so people [weave together](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/common-people-common-table-common-goal/) their different backgrounds and experiences, their struggles and their celebrations. If you’re not in a dinner group, [join one today](http://hobokengrace.com/dinnergroups/) or next month, when several new groups will launch. If you’re already part of of a dinner group, try focusing more on what you can contribute rather than what you’re getting out of it.

**2). Explore your gifts**

Serving on a team at Hoboken Grace is a great way to learn more about your gifts and talents, and how you can use them to love other people well. Maybe that looks like making people feel welcome each Sunday morning, as a member of the [First Impressions Team](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/first-impressions-lasting-connections/). Or maybe that means making an impact in [Grace Kids](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/teams-make-no-mistake/), or through [photography](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/teams-giving-the-gift-of-photo-this-christmas/), [writing](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/your-story/) or [music](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/sing-into-spring-why-you-should-join-the-choir/). How can you use your gifts to love other people? You can see a full list of teams [here](http://hobokengrace.com/serve/), or take the [Intro to Impact](https://hobokengrace.churchcenteronline.com/registrations/events/9294) class.

**3). Find financial freedom**

When it comes to giving generously, oftentimes what holds us back is anxiety over our finances. [FPU](https://www.facebook.com/events/1583723171929754/) is for anyone who dreams of finding financial freedom — freedom from debt, anxiety, and any sort of uncertainty about budgeting and financial planning. [Former students say](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/fpu-lifetime-freedom/) the class helped them gain a grip on their finances, but also gave them the confidence to think big and give big.

**4). Find your place in God’s story**

Dive into a book of the Bible this fall with one of Hoboken Grace’s [four Story Studies](http://hobokengrace.com/nextsteps/) (Genesis, John, Acts and Romans). These classes are designed to help you engage in God’s word in new ways and [see scripture differently](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/famous-for-faith/). But they will also help you see how these books fit into a bigger picture, and help you uncover your place in God’s story. (One note: These classes are for members only. If you are not yet a member, the [CORE ](http://hobokengrace.com/nextsteps/)membership class is offered once a month.)

**5). Take a step forward**

Spare an hour or two this fall to take one of Hoboken Grace’s [Sunday growth classes](http://hobokengrace.com/nextsteps/). Learn more about getting plugged in at Hoboken Grace (Next), dinner groups (Creating Community), using your time and talents to serve (Intro to Impact), baptism (What Is Baptism), becoming a member (CORE) or establishing biblical habits (Rhythms).

**6). Plant a seed and watch it grow**

One of the easiest ways to impact our community is by [working](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/the-third-voice/) in the lives of its children. Consider [serving ](http://hobokengrace.com/serve/)in Grace Kids this fall, or just [take a tour](https://hobokengrace.churchcenteronline.com/registrations/events/36725) one Sunday to see a bigger picture of all that Grace Kids is doing.

**7). Attend Amplify on Oct. 22**

Hoboken Grace’s one-day growth conference is less than two months away! Mark your calendar for Amplify on Saturday, Oct. 22\. Growth tracks include Foundations ([how to live life more rooted in God’s word](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/running-the-race/)), Empower (how to better use your gifts and talents), Story ([how to tell you story](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/your-story-matters/)), various book studies and, new this year, Dating.

To explore even more growth opportunities, check out Hoboken Grace’s Next Steps page [here](http://hobokengrace.com/nextsteps/).


Think Big This Fall

1 Day. 1 City. And this year, 10,000 meals for people across our community.

Each year, 1Day brings together as many people as possible to accomplish as much as we can for our city, with projects at parks, schools and local organizations. In addition to those projects, volunteers at [this year’s event](https://www.facebook.com/events/1270588539651946/) on Saturday, Sept. 24, will also package 10,000 meals for local families who struggle with hunger.

With the help of [Generosity Feeds](https://www.generosityfeeds.org/), a Virginia-based organization that works to mobilize businesses, nonprofits, churches and schools across the U.S. to combat hunger at the local level, volunteers will spend two hours packaging the ingredients for a meal of rice and beans. 

Those packages will then be distributed to the many families in our area who don’t always know when they’ll eat their next meal. A [2016 report by Feeding America](http://www.feedingamerica.org/hunger-in-america/our-research/map-the-meal-gap/2014/NJ%5FAllCounties%5FCDs%5FMMG%5F2014.pdf) estimates that more than 80,000 Hudson County residents — or 12.5 percent — struggle with food insecurity, the term the USDA uses to describe people without enough food to live a healthy lifestyle. Across New Jersey, that number rises to more than [1 million people](http://www.nj.com/essex/index.ssf/2016/05/where%5Fare%5Fthe%5Fhighest%5Frates%5Fof%5Fhunger%5Fin%5Fnj.html) — or 11.8 percent of the state’s residents.

“We always wanted 1Day to make a huge impact,” says Anthony, Hoboken Grace’s outreach director. “I learned about Generosity Feeds at a conference, and it always stuck in my mind as a great way to reach the community and impact thousands of lives locally.”

The challenge of packaging 10,000 meals in two hours, however, requires at least 150 volunteers — in addition to others who set up and clean up the event. 

In the meantime, other 1Day volunteers will be working with In Jesus’ Name Charities, manning a food donation table at Acme, lending a hand at Hoboken High School, and cleaning up various parks and playgrounds. A few hours later, everyone will meet up for a huge after-party. 

It’s shaping up to be the biggest 1Day yet! But we need your help to pull it off. Help spread the word, invite your friends and family, and [register to volunteer today](http://hobokengrace.com/1day/). Then, we’ll see you at 10 a.m. on Sept.24 at Church Square Park (4th and Willow), where the event will kick off before volunteers disperse to various projects across the city.

 We can’t wait to see the difference we can make in 1 Day!


Our Biggest 1Day Project Yet!

This past Sunday we got to cap off our BURST series with a day of just musical praise. We sang songs, we threw some paint and we had some of the loudest drums we’ve ever had in our services. If you weren’t able to join us, you can relive all the fun on our [series page.](http://hobokengrace.com/series/burst/)

And then we went home.

So now what? Here are three ways to continue growing in your worship of God.

**Start the Day with Him**

How we start the day can have an incredible impact on our attitude throughout the day. I can speak from experience on the days when I sleep through any and all alarms, or when the first thing I do when I get up is stub my toe. But aside from the little things, starting my day by making sure He is the first thing my brain takes in can have a drastic impact on the rest of it. For some of us that means we need to _not_ look at our phones or the TV right when we get up. Technology is everywhere in our lives now, but that’s the thing — it’s still going to be everywhere five minutes later, so it can wait. Take the first few minutes to open your Bible instead of your Bible app, or to play a worship song while you’re getting ready rather than watching the morning news right away. Email and text messages can wait a few minutes. Give Him the priority He deserves by making Him a priority from the get-go. That simple act will be something you carry with you throughout the day because you started the day being AWARE of Him. That makes the moments where we come to praise Him even more meaningful because we can actually see how He has been working throughout the week.

**Schedule Time to Rest with Him**

That means like actually putting something ON YOUR CALENDAR.

Let’s be real, we LIVE by our calendars on our phones, and _maybe_ the one on the fridge. If we’re going to start to be real with God about how much He means to us and our lives, let’s start setting some time aside for Him. And _just_ Him.

Before you freak out, this will probably look very different for each person. Some of you might want to go hiking or go on an adventure with God ([maybe even climb a tree](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/everyones-thinking-it-no-ones-saying-it/)). Some of you may want to find a quiet place out of town to be quiet and alone by a beach, a pool or a fireplace. Some of you may be terrified at the idea of being that alone, so you’ll find a noisy coffee shop in the next town over that’s new.

But the theme here is the same — you need to get AWAY. There is something about being intentional about getting out of your normal surroundings to spend time with God and listening to God that allows you to actually clear your head. I like to go to the beach and bring a journal and a Bible and just get everything in my head out on paper, then pray and listen for what God wants to do with it. Whatever it is for you, get away for half a day or even a whole day if you want, and make time to rest with God.

![DSC_1384](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/08/DSC_1384-e1471552604671-1024x372.jpg)

**Find Moments to Sing**

Nope, not joking. We talked this whole series about how God’s word actually tells us that He LOVES when we sing to Him! It doesn’t say He only loves when the Worship Team sings to Him. It doesn’t say He only loves when Josh Groban sings to him. WE. It’s as though David knew we would question this when he wrote this song in 1 Chronicles 16:8-10:

_Give thanks to the Lord and proclaim his greatness._

 _Let the whole world know what he has done._

**_Sing to him; yes, sing his praises._**

 _Tell everyone about his wonderful deeds._

_Exult in his holy name;_

 _rejoice, you who worship the Lord._

No way around that one, folks! Rather than fight it, I dare you to embrace it (and it seems David dares you, too). Whether that’s on your drive to work, your walk home, when you’re getting ready in the morning or when you’re making dinner at night — whatever it is, start by finding a time to blast your favorite worship tune and sing along. This is in no way about the quality of your voice or how well you know the words. This is about you and Him! Sing the words of the song until they’re real and true to you. No shame in hitting that repeat button! And remember, this isn’t about what we can get out of it, it’s about letting Him know how much we love him. The truth is you’ll get so much more out of that one act of loving God than you will have expected anyway.

Don’t let your worship end when you walk out the door on Sundays. Create the mental and physical space to spend time letting God know how much you love Him. He’s looking forward to spending that time with you this week.

If you’re at a loss for where to start, a great resource is our [Hoboken Grace Spotify Playlist](https://open.spotify.com/user/1228483827/playlist/5Flm1wCBrEzo1guCwzm2n7), which is updated often with the songs that we sing on Sundays. You can always go back and watch the music from any service on our [Livestream](https://livestream.com/hobokengrace) page as well.


Turn It Up to 11

_During the spring, the Romans Story Study class was a huge hit. This is the experience of Laura, one of the students who took the class._

Have you ever longed to be famous? Maybe the Olympics had you momentarily imagining you were the world’s greatest jumper, runner or swimmer. Or perhaps you have dreamt of being on a stage where there are smoke machines, flashing lights and loud music. Maybe your stage is quieter and more thoughtful. Perhaps your chosen fame would come as a writer or academic. Whatever the case might be, at some point many of us have thought it would be cool to have a worldwide reputation for excellence in something.

This past spring I took the [Romans Story Study](https://hobokengrace.churchcenteronline.com/registrations/events/24291). I learned a lot about grace and who I am in Christ. I learned about how helpless I am to do good without Him. I didn’t actually learn whether the Romans longed to be known all over the world for their excellence; but as I read through the letter, I learned that they were.

The simple statement in the first chapter of the letter continually catches my eye — the church at Rome was known all over the world for its faith. Usually I basically ignore what writers say in the foreword and afterword of their books, but this intrigued me. Many times when I meditated on it, I prayed that some day the same thing would be said about Hoboken Grace.

Later as Paul closes the letter, he rejoices because everyone has heard about their obedience. What were they believing and what were they obeying that it was so noteworthy? It’s not like there was a 24-hour news cycle to fill. I can only imagine that if you were going to be known all over the world back then, you would have had to be doing something really remarkable.

What they believed is tucked between Paul’s salutation and closing remarks. It is an explanation of the gospel message. It is instruction in how to apply this gospel message to our lives. In Paul’s words, it was his good news.

This good news is really, really, really good. Did you know that as a believer in Jesus, you don’t ever have to try to be righteous again? Did you know that you are free from the Law? Did you know that your biggest sin doesn’t make God mad at you? Did you know the Spirit of God lives inside of you breaking you free from the control of your pain, selfishness and habitual sin? Did you know the more a believer sins, the more grace they get!?

I love why Paul says the gospel was preached. He repeats the goal in both his greeting and goodbye. It was so that all the Gentiles might come to the obedience that comes from faith. Both of the things for which the Romans were famous.

If I believed what Paul said in Romans, I would obey the good news too. I mean if that is what is true, then God is an incredibly good, good God. If someone so incredibly good was telling me how to live in a wise and loving way, why wouldn’t I listen to them?

Five months after our class ended, I still find the good news incredible. I do continually forget what Paul told me is true about my identity and future. But every time I call myself back to what Paul says is true and then act on this truth, I break loose from the strongholds that sin and satan have held in my life.

I think it would be so cool if the people at Hoboken Grace were known for their faith. Not just what they knew in their head, but what they did with that knowledge. It would be so cool if we really, really, really knew we were sons and daughters of the living God.

During class, I was challenged by the instructor and my fellow students to rethink everything I knew about the Gospel message. After class, I have carried this knowledge with me, and it has significantly impacted the way I live my life — both in the secular world and in “ministry.” It has inspired me to continue studying the letter after the class ended. I have found great value in putting to memory verses I now know in their larger context.

A Bible study transformed my life last spring. Will one transform yours this fall?

_To sign up for the Romans class or any of the other Story Studies offered this fall, [click here](http://hobokengrace.com/nextsteps/). Please note that they are open to members only. If you are not yet a member, the [CORE membership class](https://hobokengrace.churchcenteronline.com/registrations/events/5472) is offered on the first Sunday of each month. Email sarah@hobokengrace.com with any questions._


Famous for Faith

A few months ago, as my mind spun in a whirl of “should do’s” and “could do’s” and “didn’t do’s,” a voice started whispering in my ear. No, literally. I was listening to an [audiobook ](https://www.amazon.com/Garden-City-Work-Being-Human/dp/0310337313/ref=sr%5F1%5F1?ie=UTF8&qid=1470842278&sr=8-1&keywords=garden+city)about the balance of work and rest — in the midst of doing one much more than the other — and through the headphones came the suggestion of Sabbath, of balancing out our frantic, demanding lifestyles by taking one day each week to reset and recharge.

For as long as I could remember, I had been living in what felt like perpetual fight-or-flight mode. I was overcommitted, overscheduled and overextended. My mind was this adrenaline-powered carousel, circling with commitments, obligations and the belief that, somehow, I could keep pace. All day, every day, it spun ‘round and ‘round, casting a trance of guilt and shame as I failed to keep up.

What if, that voice in the headphones said, you stopped for 24 hours each week? What if you set aside time to be fully present for your friends and family, instead of continuing to allow your anxiety to boil over into those relationships? What if you learned to delight in what God had already created, instead of striving to do more, be more and have more?

The voice had a good point. And thus began my summer-long experiment of observing the Sabbath, because really, what did I have to lose? And if God had bothered to embed the concept of rest into the foundation of humanity in Genesis, then etch it into stone in Exodus, there must be something to it, right?

Each weekend started with the best of intentions. But eventually I’d start making mental to-do lists of all the work I could be doing. The carousel would begin chugging up and down again, until it was zipping and flying along. Heart racing. Head spinning. Panic mode.

It seems that at the core of our subconscious — at the axle of the carousel — is the idea that our value and identity are based on what we accomplish, how much we produce and how much we possess. “The thinking … goes like this,” writes Alan Fadling in [_An Unhurried Life_](https://www.amazon.com/Unhurried-Life-Following-Jesus-Rhythms/dp/0830835733). “_If I do more, I am more. If I have more, I am more. If more people like and recognize me more, I’m more valuable._ This idea is subtle, and insidious in its undermining of the Sabbath. What happens to our sense of identity if we stop our activity to observe the Sabbath day? If I am what I do, who am I on a Sabbath day when I do nothing productive?”

[![sabbath](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/08/sabbath.jpg)](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/08/sabbath.jpg)

The more I clung to the idea of Sabbath — instead of the egoistical notion that the world couldn’t carry on without my contributions — the more I began to see that it was about so much more than rest. When God stopped working on Day 7, it wasn’t because He needed to — it was so that He could soak in everything He’d created.

When God dictates the [Ten Commandments](https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Exodus+20&version=NIV) in Exodus, nearly a third(!) of the words He has etched into stone are about marking the Sabbath (as opposed to “do not murder,” “do not steal” or “do not worship false Gods”). Apparently, He was really into this idea. He goes on and on about it to the Israelites, who had just spent decades enslaved in Egypt. Forty years later, Moses [expands ](https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Deuteronomy%205:12-15)on the purpose of Sabbath in Deuteronomy: “Remember that you were slaves in Egypt and that the Lord your God brought you out of there with a mighty hand and an outstretched arm.”

Observing the Sabbath, God seems to say, is not just about rest, or even celebration. It’s freedom from the idea that we’re defined by our work, or how well we fulfill society’s demands and expectations. It’s a weekly reminder that our value is based not on what we produce, but who we are and who God intended us to be.

Sabbath is the practice of feeling filled rather than drained, of inhaling rather than exhaling. That might look different based on your season in life, or whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert. It can mean brunch surrounded by the people you love, or people watching at the pier; family time at the park, or spending time alone in prayer; going out for ice cream, or staying in to savor your haul from the garden. (John Mark Comer, the author of that aforementioned audiobook, “Garden City,” uses only this criteria: “Is it worship or is it rest?” Will it leave you feeling filled or drained?) It doesn’t even matter what day of the week it is. Sabbath is simply time and space to share with God and the people you love. It’s an opportunity to soak it all in — the things that bring you joy.

The thing is, you can’t bear fruit well without proper nourishment. You can pick up endless causes and commitments to serve God, love His people and sow some good into the earth. Your veins might pulse with purpose and good intentions. But I’m convinced that we’ll never do any of it well if the carousel is spinning non-stop. You will sputter out and short-circuit. Instead, we need the rhythm of choosing Eden over Egypt. We need to marvel at the garden once in a while, instead of toiling in skyscraper pyramids and living enslaved to our schedules, to-do lists and society’s expectations.

So, yes, Sabbath is about rest. It’s about shutting down the carousel and declaring that, sorry, this ride is out of service today, please come back tomorrow. But that’s only so we can recalibrate, mind, body and soul, after our schedules and everything else spin out of control. Sabbath is where we find our center again, where we rediscover the identity that God intended for us, instead of finding it in our work. It’s where we meet God in the middle, to remember we’re shaped not by what we do, but who we are and what He has given us. It’s a celebration — of all that you are, all that God is, and all that this world already has to offer.

_Brittney is a member of the Writing Team._


A Rhythm of Rest


The first time anyone ever mentioned pornography addiction to me was while I was chatting with a friend at a Dunkin’ Donuts after Sunday services. He mentioned it only casually — “I’ve had problems before dealing with sex and porn” — and then the conversation moved on.

But then I started to notice it more often: Guys who would casually mention their problems with sex, lust or pornography. These weren’t random strangers, either, but men I saw on a regular basis. Soon it had become abundantly clear: A lot of people are struggling with lust, but no one likes to talk about it.

To be clear, I use the term “lust” here to cover a wide range of behaviors from pornography addiction to an overzealous love for Tinder. It all comes back to the same core emotion, and it manifests itself differently in every person. And I would be remiss not to point out that it’s not just men who struggle with it — [Nielsen ratings indicate](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jincey-lumpkin/carlin-ross%5Fb%5F1278032.html) that one-third of online porn viewers are women.

One of the things that finally inspired me to write this article was when [Dan told his story at Hoboken Grace](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/story/dans-story/) back in June. In case you haven’t seen it yet, Dan talks openly about using pornography and relationships to cover up the pain he was feeling.

“In my mind I wasn’t as concerned with building a relationship as I was seeking the same type of escape from pain,” Dan said. “Looking back I’m able to see that I wanted that … feeling you get when you’re with someone physically rather than simply wanting to be with someone in the long run.”

Dan’s introduction to pornography began like most others: the internet. One day in sixth grade he accidentally found himself on the wrong website (as do [28 percent of teens who have been accidentally exposed to pornography](http://www.covenanteyes.com/2013/02/19/pornography-statistics/)). Initially he rejected what he saw, but eventually the idea of pornography became a normal thing.

“You hear your friends talk about it,” he said. “It was kind of normal. I really didn’t realize the gravity of it. You don’t really talk about porn as an issue until maybe college.”

But for most Americans, just admitting that you have a habit can be a hard step to make. According to [a study performed by the Pew Research Center in 2013](http://www.pewinternet.org/files/old-media//Files/Reports/2013/PIP%5FOnline%20Video%202013.pdf), only 12 percent of the 1,003 Americans surveyed admitted to watching internet porn.

That’s a startlingly low number for an online industry that generates $3 billion each year in the United States alone. CovenantEyes, an online accountability group, claims that about [64 to 68 percent of young adult men and about 18 percent of women use porn](http://www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats/) at least once every week. And in 2010, 25 percent of all internet searches were for pornography. From these statistics we can only conclude that the other 88 percent of Americans lied to Pew (though Pew freely admits that performing the survey over the phone was not the most tactful approach).

But no matter who you hear it from, every source echoes the same sentiment: Pornography is a growing problem. Unlike alcohol or drugs, the dangers of porn are not readily apparent. Pornography will not give you cirrhosis. It will not increase your risk for cancer. Nonetheless, its effects can be very real.

John is a counselor at a private practice who helps men and women from a variety of backgrounds tackle issues from anxiety to addiction. Frequently he encounters men and women who struggle with lust or pornography.

“It’s like any other drug,” he said. “You build up a tolerance. You’re continuously doing something and after a while it almost becomes boring or unsatisfying, and you have to do more.”

“After a while the stimulation starts to die off after a bit,” he said. “So you’re always trying to find more and more and newer ways. It builds and it builds to a point that it can be almost all consuming. It can get to a point where people look back on the time they spent viewing porn, and all of a sudden three or four hours have gone by.”

I spoke with Michael (whose named has been changed for this article) about how lust and pornography have affected his life. His struggle began in his teen years as a way to escape from emotional pain.

“My struggles have primarily been linked to using sexuality as an escape from feeling pain” he said. “That was kind of the root of my struggle that continues all the way through my adult life, and it’s something I’m still dealing with.”

And Michael is certainly not alone. He shares a similar story with many men and women who use sexuality as a way to cope with anything from depression and anxiety, to forgetting very serious traumatic events.

“We want to numb that pain,” said John. “We want to numb that struggle. So we will go to many different coping strategies, and it just happens that sex and pornography can be one side of that.”

What is clear is that pornography does play a major role in diminishing trust between partners. According to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 56 percent of divorce cases involve one party having “an obsessive interest in pornographic websites.”

“It is very hard for you to realistically achieve what you would achieve through pornography,” John said. “So you almost start judging people — the human beings, the loved ones that you’re with –- comparing them to the images you’re seeing in pornography.”

It can even get to the point where porn gets in the way of loving relationships.

“It can ruin our ability to truly invest in a real relationship,” said John. “And we’re not able to really seek love either, sometimes. There’s almost a numbness, in my opinion, and people will never see that.”

But if sex and pornography addiction are such common problems, then why does it fly under the radar so easily? It’s a question with many answers. One answer is that it’s easy to hide, and pornography thrives in secrecy. This also means that it can be hard to recognize a problem even when you have one.

“One of the things I’ve noticed is that people don’t realize the effects the pornography can have on others and on themselves,” said John. “Or if they do, it’s hard for them to truly process what kind of harm it can do to a loved one or a child.”

Availability is another major part of the issue. In the pre-internet era, people seeking out pornography needed to actually venture outside and buy it at a store (presumably in trench coat and over-sized hat, since you were embarrassed to be seen doing it). And you were forced to contend with whatever they had available.

But pornography is everywhere now. It’s even in our pockets: An analysis of more than 1 million hits to Google’s mobile search sites shows more than one in five searches are for pornography on mobile devices. Most of it is free. And the supply is virtually limitless.

[![sunrise-1204204_1280](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/08/sunrise-1204204_1280-e1470936001493.jpg)](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/08/sunrise-1204204%5F1280.jpg)

For Michael, the escapism first came in the form of books, but the digital age changed all that.

“As I got older, the internet opened up new possibilities for me to escape,” he said. “Before long it kind of evolved into chat communications available on the internet. Then I realized I could get a sense of intimacy — albeit false — through those means. It was kind of a progressive arc of decay in that area of my life.”

It’s also possible to fill whatever need you are seeking at the click of a button. [As the saying goes](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rule%5F34%5F%28Internet%5Fmeme%29), “If you can imagine it, there’s a porn for it.” And like other forms of addiction, porn use frequently escalates. A 2016 study discovered that [half of the porn users surveyed had escalated to material](http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/why-did-my-porn-use-escalate) they once found “uninteresting or disgusting.”

In fact, there is now mounting evidence that pornography is sapping men of their sexual drive. Only within the last few years has pornography become so easily available with the arrival of high-speed internet and smart phones. The results? Millennials have become the very first wave of victims falling prey to porn-induced erectile dysfunction, or PIED. As [Time magazine](http://time.com/4277510/porn-and-the-threat-to-virility/http://time.com/4277510/porn-and-the-threat-to-virility/) puts it: “These young men feel like unwitting guinea pigs in a largely unmonitored decade-long experiment in sexual conditioning.”

Now, the same people who were once enthusiastic porn users are starting to push back. Growing communities are now discouraging pornography use. [Your Brain On Porn](http://yourbrainonporn.com/) is a website started by Gary Wilson to document the overwhelming effect porn has had on its users, on top of thousands of personal testimonies from its readers. A Reddit community for people who are trying to abstain from pornography has close to 200,000 members.

Also fueling the problem, Michael says, is the volume of the content available on the internet. “Without too much effort, you can kind of tap into a great mass of material that can be really destructive to your thinking,” he said. “It really opens up all sorts of dangerous avenues.”

“We don’t like to be uncomfortable,” John said. “So instead of being uncomfortable, we’ll look for the quickest satisfaction to make us feel comfortable. And because of how readily available things are, we find ways — basically through addictions — to help us cope with something deeper within ourselves that we don’t want to address.”

“Part of it goes to the misuse of sex,” said Michael. “Sex is intended to be a form of God’s love between a man and woman in the context of marriage. I think what is seen with pornography, masturbation and lust is that it’s become something that can be decoupled from that intent. It becomes something where it’s an attempt to find intimacy, love and safety but in the wrong place.”

The good news is that there is a road to recovery. When asked about the first steps to take, everyone I spoke with gave a unanimous answer: Talk to somebody. When dealing with addiction, John said, accountability is paramount.

“That is probably one of the most important aspects. You have to start talking about the issue, talking about the problem and opening up to somebody who can be an accountable person in your life,” said John.

Michael emphasized that while many people seem to have no problem with sexuality or pornography, it’s important to remember that it’s not doing any good for them either.

“What I found is that I couldn’t do it on my own,” said Michael. “Talking about my problem with a counselor or other guys was one healthy step I’ve taken in my life. I think the act of telling another human being about my struggle was a really important part.”

For anyone who is struggling with lust, sex or pornography issues, another suggested step is seeking help. Hoboken Grace can recommend[ private counseling and therapy groups](http://hobokengrace.com/counseling/).

“Humility is a really important initial step,” said Michael. “Realize that sometimes you can’t always do this on your own.”


Let’s Talk About Lust

Frustrated about finances? Drowning in debt? Befuddled by budgets, investments and retirement planning? Join the countless others who have found financial freedom through [Financial Peace University.](https://www.facebook.com/events/194446337691815/)

FPU is a practical, nine-week course that will teach you [how to manage money God’s way](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/the-most-important-lessons-we-learned-from-fpu/). The class covers relationships, budgeting, getting out of debt, insurance and making wise investments. The average Hoboken Grace household has experienced a more than $4,000 turnaround in their finances during the nine-week course itself.

The class will be offered Mondays (from 7:30-9:30 p.m., starting Feb. 6) and Tuesdays (from 7:30-9:30 p.m., starting Feb. 7). Attendance for all nine sessions is strongly recommended, and married couples are encouraged to attend together.

Those who took the class in the fall on average [paid off more than $2,500 in debt](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/three-takeaways-from-fpu/) and saved more than $2,000, according to surveys distributed at the end of the nine weeks. But months later, they are still unloading debt, growing their savings account and applying the many other lessons learned in FPU. Here are four stories from fall semester students who are experiencing financial freedom:

**Tasheka**

I was always interested in finance, so much so that I pursued it as a career. Within my roles (current and past), I was always responsible for managing millions of dollars each month to ensure we are meeting our yearly goals.

However, when it came to my own personal finances, I lacked the same enthusiasm and insight. I knew I had my fixed monthly expenses that were paid timely, but outside of this, all my discretionary income would just disappear before the close of the month, and I was hardly saving enough for any life emergencies. I started a new job last year that pays monthly, and I knew I needed to get my spending under control for fear of getting myself in a financial bind.

I decided to sign up for FPU in January, and it has been one of the best decisions I’ve made in 2016 (the year of courage). Since starting the class, I have created a monthly budget every month to account for how each dollar will be spent, I’ve paid off all but one credit card, I now have a growing savings account and, most importantly, I’ve been able to tithe as soon as I get paid (instead of paying all my bills and then seeing what I have left).

This class has been a blessing to my life because I am no longer stressed about something as important as my finances. I now have a plan to be completely debt-free by 2018\. And I can honestly say I am well on my way to accomplishing my goals!

**Dan and Rebecca**

FPU has totally changed the way we view our finances together — from how we manage everyday expenses like groceries, eating out and filling the car with gas to big decisions like buying a car, house and insurance. It challenges fundamental ideas that many today have accepted as ‘truth’ when in fact those very things are what may drive people to financial ruin. We cannot recommend this course enough for those who are struggling with debt and their finances. If we were to sum it all up — in FPU, we entered thinking debt was something to be managed and left believing it’s something to be free from!

**Andy**

FPU was great for me because it laid out a formula to accomplish financial freedom. It wasn’t an abstract set of ideals. Instead, it provided a comprehensive list of steps toward peace of mind.

The debt snowball, a simple yet empowering method of paying off debt, was my favorite and most influential aspect of the course. I highly recommend FPU for anyone who wants a deeper understanding of financial responsibility, as well as a plan to achieve the peace and independence that comes with properly handling your hard earned money.

**Angela**

Financial Peace University gave me a plan. Prior to taking the course, I had no real plan for the money I was saving, and without a plan, I felt no strong sentiment for the money I was spending.

I had the attitude that since I was living in Hoboken, where rent is high and it is hard to save anyway, I might as well live well — support every local coffee shop, never say no to a happy hour and sport a new dress for every occasion. Increasingly louder was the inner conviction that this was not God’s intention for my earnings and for the countless hours I was spending at work.

FPU matured me as I accepted the truth that how I handle my finances now will contribute to the ease at which I can achieve the plans and desires in my heart in the future. Dave Ramsey’s passionate interpretation on financial planning caused me to waste no time in putting together a realistic budget and seeking to understand where every dollar of my income was going.

My boyfriend and I took this course together, and we’re so grateful for establishing these FPU principles in the foundation of our relationship. Our Uber trips up and down Washington Street have since subsided, and now when we’re covered in sweat going from A to B, we smile at one another and say “live like no one else now so later we can live like no one else!”

_Financial Peace University will be offered on Monday and Tuesday Nights from 7:30 p.m. – 9:30 p.m. starting the week of February 6th. Classes are full this semester. If you have any questions you can contact Sarah at [sarah@hobokengrace.com](mailto:sarah@hobokengrace.com)._


Living a Life of Financial Freedom

_TEAMS is a monthly series that celebrates the talent and impact of those who serve at Hoboken Grace._

**“Where have you seen God?”**

It’s a question Pastor Chris challenged us to think about this week. But for the Writing Team, it’s the question that drives everything we do. As we think about what stories to feature in the newsletter and on this blog, we ask ourselves week after week where we see God working in our church family and in our city — what are the stories shaping our community?

Since the beginning of time, God has used stories to connect people. They are the strings that tie us together and draw us closer to Him. And in an age of social media and email newsletters, the power of story is greater than ever.

So once a month over coffee and brunch, we work through that central question: “Where have we seen God?” Sometimes the conversation centers on how we see Him using a specific person or team to impact our city. Sometimes we talk about a conversation we are working through as a church family, or discuss ways in which we see people looking for God.

From there, we think about how we can share that story. How can we show that God’s story is being lived out in our city? How can we help people continue to grow and live in healthy community? And, above all, how can we help bring people closer to God?

As we walk through these questions week after week — and after nearly 200 blog posts over the past year and a half — we see lives transformed and prayers answered. We see people passionate about serving, and things in our city worth celebrating. We see how your stories tie our community together and make all of us feel less alone.

Quite simply, we see God through your stories. So for this TEAMS post, it’s time we explain what serving on the Writing Team means to us.

**Joanna**

I joined the Writing Team because I love stories, and I want to share how God is working in my life and your life with the rest of our church family. When I feel disconnected or far away from God, or like my prayer life is just me talking to myself about all the things that make me anxious, it’s the stories I hear in my dinner group that shake me awake and remind me that God can be trusted, He does answer prayers and His plans always exceed my own. These stories make me braver and give me peace. I write to shine a light on how God is moving in our city, because the story of God’s grace and power isn’t confined to the pages of a big book scribed thousands of years ago — it’s being written every day, all around us and in us. That deserves a headline.

**Cassie**

When thinking about joining a team at Hoboken Grace, it was important to me to really consider where my God-given talents were strongest, the needs of the moment, and what I could actually commit to doing with the demands of my career. I work in the publishing industry, so the written word is very central in my life, and I’ve been blessed to have a strong gift for expressing myself and others through writing. I had been considering where to best serve at Hoboken Grace for about a month when I heard there was a need for people to join the Writing Team. It seemed like a no-brainer and where God was leading me to serve. It also allows me to actively serve even when I’m not physically in Hoboken — which is great for me, since I travel a lot for work.

Not only has working on stories with the team allowed me to take notice of where God is working in the lives of our community, but it has allowed me to reflect on my own spiritual needs and think about what topics are significantly impacting the lives of Christians at large, which has definitely influenced what projects I tend to take on in my professional life as well.

[![IMG_6700](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/08/IMG_6700-e1470327016879.jpg)](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/08/IMG%5F6700-e1470327016879.jpg)

**Matt**

I was first invited to attend church by my friend Matt sometime last year. What made a deep impression on me was the way Hoboken Grace gave so much and helped people without expectation. And what I saw at the core of that community was a group of people who gave back their time to make Hoboken Grace run like clockwork. With so many people pitching in, I felt it only fair to start giving back too (plus, they kept feeding me breakfast).

Opportunity came knocking not too long after that when I saw the newsletter table at church one day. I’m an engineer by trade, but writing is my passion. Writing for the newsletter is simply something that fits my current strengths: my schedule is hectic and I frequently can’t commit to anything more than a week in advance. But writing is something I can squeeze into my spare time, and I love doing it. So far I’ve covered topics I would have never predicted encountering. It’s been an honor being able to tell some of the amazing stories people have shared with me.

**Brittney**

To be honest, I was pretty hesitant about joining the Writing Team as it was starting up last year. While on the one hand it seemed like a good fit — I’d worked for a newspaper in some form or another since junior high — my mind went to some of my insecurities instead of what I could contribute. I thought about the fact that I didn’t know many people at Hoboken Grace, and that I’d probably have to ask total strangers intimate questions about their faith (or really cheesy questions, like what got them excited about the Easter Egg Hunt). I didn’t think anyone cared about what I had to say, and was wary it would be a huge time commitment.

But I’ve never regretted saying yes. I soon learned that serving on the team was one of the easiest ways to meet people at Hoboken Grace — and one of the fastest ways to get plugged in. Week after week, I get to see firsthand how God is moving in our community — how people are growing in their relationship with Him, and how He is using us to impact this city.

But the most rewarding part for me is seeing how God uses your stories to reach other people. I love hearing that a blog post showed up in the newsletter at just the right time — when someone felt particularly alone, when they were looking for a nudge from God, or when a story changed their perception of baptism or dinner groups.

We might be the Writing Team, but this is your blog. And this blog — this community — more than anything needs your stories. That doesn’t mean you need to join the Writing Team (although you’re welcome to, especially if you like a good brunch). That means we need your story here, in this space, even if your mind is darting to your insecurities right now, instead of [what you have to contribute](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/your-story-matters/). If you’ve been thinking about sharing any part of your story (and especially if you’re hesitant about being on video), this is your opportunity. Because more than anything, we want to know where you’ve seen God.

_If you’re interested in joining the Writing Team or sharing any part of your story, email Brittney at brittney@hobokengrace.com._

**The Writing Team**

**Mission:** To tell God’s story inside our family via the Hoboken Grace blog, while helping people grow and live in healthy community.

**The commitment:** Members write weekly and attend monthly meetings.

_Want to learn more about serving on a team at Hoboken Grace? Attend our [Intro to Impact](https://hobokengrace.churchcenteronline.com/registrations/events/9294) class this Sunday from 12:45 pm – 1:45 pm. You can also join a team [here](http://hobokengrace.com/serve/)._


Your Story

Over the past year, Improv for a Cause has raised money for organizations in Hoboken and around the globe. The events have benefited a community mentoring program, an orphanage in Mexico and a local homeless shelter.

This time, we’re sending someone to college! 

[Back with a new format](https://www.facebook.com/events/1238774169496153/?notif%5Ft=plan%5Fuser%5Fjoined&notif%5Fid=1469656427350401) this Sunday, Improv for a Cause will support Love Does’ student [sponsorship program](http://lovedoes.org/getinvolved/launch/?sponsorship=9916) — more specifically, a 22-year-old named Richard who the Uganda team met last fall. For Richard, who is the first person in his family to pursue education beyond elementary school, having the means to attend college could change the trajectory of his entire life. But it could also affect his family, his village, his district and the many lives that Richard is trying to impact.

“When he told me his story, I remember thinking, he has to go to college, no matter what,” says Brittney, who met Richard at Restore Leadership Academy, a school started by Bob Goff. “There’s something special about him. If anyone can help change the world, Richard can.”

The fact that Richard has the chance to pursue his dreams is somewhat of a miracle itself. He spent much of his childhood running from the LRA as the rebels abducted 20,000 children, making many of them child soldiers; killed thousands of other people; and displaced more than a million Ugandans in their own country. His mother gave birth while in hiding, even cutting the umbilical cord herself, he says.

As a child, Richard watched as the LRA raided villages as he and his family found new hiding places. His life was spared several times – including once when someone was killed while urging him not to sleep near a doorway. The house was struck in an attack as the person shielded Richard in the process of moving him out of the way.

![20150912_143132](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/07/20150912_143132-1024x575.jpg)

Years later, after the war had ended, Richard began attending Restore Leadership Academy, where he became one of the stars of the school’s award-winning debate team. His world widened, his faith deepened and his dreams grew. It was there that he decided he wanted to become a lawyer and spend his life fostering peace and justice. He also dreams of helping to build a stronger Uganda that is more resilient to corruption, and whose people are inspired to live extraordinary lives filled with love and gratitude. He has even delivered speeches on those topics in nearby villages.

“I was called to speak to a group of over 500 people in my home district on the theme ‘creating a better Uganda,’” he said in an update several months ago. “When I prayed to God last night to provide me with something to speak upon, I was provided with this: To inspire people on the heart of love, gratitude, truths, beliefs and cares … and creating a new generation that will stand so strong to say no to corruption.”

Through mentoring, Richard has also been working to build into the lives of some of the many youths in Uganda, where [78 percent ](http://www.aljazeera.com/news/2016/02/election-2016-young-voices-uganda-160216120536215.html)of the population is under the age of 30, making it the youngest country in the world.

“Young people are literally the future,” says Anna, who sponsored Richard during his last year at Restore.

After achieving one of the top test scores on national exams in northern Uganda, Richard was accepted into one of the country’s prestigious law programs. Because his family cannot afford the tuition, he has spent the past few months applying for scholarships and praying for a financial miracle. Through Love Does’ sponsorship program, he will be able to pursue his dreams.

That’s where Improv for a Cause comes in. While the show is completely free, donations will go toward the sponsorship program, to ensure that Richard will be able to attend college for the next four years. If you can’t make the show but would like to support Richard, you can do so [here](https://www.purecharity.com/richard-scholarship).

[**Improv for a Cause**](https://www.facebook.com/events/1238774169496153/?notif%5Ft=plan%5Fuser%5Fjoined&notif%5Fid=1469656427350401)

**_When:_** _Sunday, July 31, 7-8 p.m._

**_Where:_** _Willie McBride’s, 616 Grand St., Hoboken_

**_About the show:_** _Improv for a Cause is back with a brand-new show! Yes, the comedians are the same, but this time the games are in YOUR hands. You will vote, choose and suggest the games the improvisers play. In the vein of “Who’s Line Is It Anyway?,” join NYC’s funniest improv comedians as we benefit another great cause._


Improv for a Cause (College Edition)

Uncontainable, overflowing, overwhelming. These are words that those who’ve come before us have used to describe their response to God. However, they aren’t usually words we would use or words that would be used to describe us.

What have we missed in this? What if the whole time we’ve been focused on the wrong thing and in the process we’ve missed out on what they knew and experienced? Join us this summer as we change the question.


Next Series

For the past five weeks, we’ve been walking through the life of Jacob. We’ve seen him wrestle with God himself, but also greed, envy, selfishness, pride, his identity and his family. And through it all, we’ve learned about the faithfulness of God and the consequences of fighting Him.

So how do we ensure that our own stories are defined by God’s will instead of our appetites? What lies are we letting stew? How do we back away from our weaknesses and instead embrace His promises?

Regardless of your own battle — temptation, identity, forgiveness — God wants to teach us how to fight. He wants us to confront the lies waging war in our mind and heart. And he wants us to be victorious, so that we can live lives of freedom.

Here are five ways to continue the fight now that [the series](http://hobokengrace.com/series/the-fight/) is over.

**1). Know what you’re up against.** 

Is there an area of your life that you are giving over to destructive lies, instead of trusting God? What’s weighing on your identity? Where in your life are you acting like a fool?

If you’re still working through this, ask God in prayer to reveal at least one area to target. Maybe you’re battling greed, envy, lust, pride, anger or bitterness. Or maybe you’ve been chasing success, money or influence.

Like a coach reviewing game tape, pinpoint your weaknesses. When do you feel most susceptible to envy? What are some steps you can take to ward off lust? How can you interject God’s truths when experiencing anger and bitterness?

Ask God to reveal what’s really fueling that emotion or habit. Throughout Jacob’s life, he struggled with many things. But behind much of that was his inability to trust in God’s promises. He thought he needed more.

**2). Be intentional.**

Knowing your enemy is half the battle. The other half is the fight itself. And if you’re serious about winning, you need to be intentional. Most fights require consistent training.

Last month, we talked about the power of incorporating [Rhythms](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/five-guidelines-youre-struggling-develop-rhythms/) into our lives. Try picking one day of the week to pray through your fight. Be upfront with what you’re battling and ask God for strength in the process.

Also, seek accountability in a friend or your dinner group. Ask that they keep tabs on your progress. Fights usually turn out best when there’s someone alongside us.

**3). Work on curbing your appetites**.

Throughout scripture, we see people called to fast. Fasting is a spiritual discipline that, over time, teaches us to stop prioritizing our immediate needs. It’s a symbol of humility and dependence on God as we learn to lean on Him.

Try incorporating fasting into your life on a routine basis — perhaps once or twice a month. And don’t forget that fasting can go beyond food. If it’s lust you’re battling, consider a [dating fast](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/one-year-dating-fast/). If you’re struggling with envy, try taking a break from social media.

**4). Dive in.** 

If you haven’t already, read Jacob’s whole story, from Gen. 25-50\. If you have read it, read it again. Now that the series is over, focus on the story’s major themes. Where do you see examples of God’s faithfulness? Where do you see Jacob living with the consequences of sin? And where do you see parallels between Jacob’s story and your own?

**5). Read on.**

There are several books that expand on some of the themes we’ve been talking about for the past five weeks. Here are a few recommended by members of our church family:

_Crash the Chatterbox: Hearing God’s Voice Above All Others_ by Steven Furtick

Day in and day out, each of us goes through life listening to and believing voices that tell us who we are or how to feel. How often are we letting God’s voice rule above all others? In “[Crash the Chatterbox,](http://www.christianbook.com/crash-chatterbox- hearing-voice- above-others/steven-furtick/9781601424570/pd/424573?dv=c&amp;en=google&amp;event=SHOP&amp;kw=christian-living-0-20%7C424573&amp;p=1179710&amp;gclid=CjwKEAjwn7e8BRCUqZiP%5FvnrtBkSJAC%5Flp4HzTfBNxeVO6iW5ola-zE2I8RetzjJi8I4Rf2dlLrNxhoC0LLw%5FwcB)” Pastor Steven Furtick exposes the many voices that lies sound like – fear, insecurity, condemnation and discouragement. We’ve all faced them at one point or another, just as Jacob did. Read this book to learn how to change your internal dialogue and embrace God’s truths in your heart and thoughts.

_The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness_ by Tim Keller

In [this short but savory read](https://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Self-Forgetfulness-Path-Christian/dp/1906173419), Tim Keller discusses what true humility is by raising our awareness of the ways our ego is either building itself up or tearing itself down. He breaks down the fight within and explains how the freedom and joy God has for us can be found in self-forgetfulness.

_Unashamed_ by Christine Caine

By exposing how we let experiences of shame weigh down our identities, Christine Caine points to the truth that God is greater and longs to love and set us free from our pasts. “You can deal with your yesterday today,” [she writes](http://christinecaine.com/content/unashamed/gjrmyx), “so that you can move on to what God has in store for you tomorrow — a powerful purpose and destiny he wants you to fulfill.”

_Did you miss any part of “The Fight” series? Listen to it_ [_here_](http://hobokengrace.com/series/the-fight/)_._

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The Fight: Now What?

For years, Hoboken has hosted a summer movie series at Pier A Park. Under constellations and against the backdrop of New York City’s lights, picnic blankets and lawn chairs dot the grass each Wednesday night. Friends and families gather there each week, their faces illuminated by the glow of “Star Wars,” “The Big Short” or whatever film is playing.

But this year is slightly different. The air is saturated with a hint of salt and butter. Moviegoers wait in line along the sidewalk. And a group stands in the corner, handing out free bags of popcorn. 

Earlier this year, Anthony asked city officials if Hoboken Grace could hand out popcorn to the scores of people who attend [Movies Under the Stars](http://hobokennj.gov/departments/human-services/cultural-affairs/movies-under-the-stars/). “They came back and said let’s give it a shot for week one and see how it goes,” he says. “Well it proved to be a hit, and they invited us back for the whole summer.”

[![popcorn4](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/07/popcorn4-682x1024.jpg)](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/07/popcorn4.jpg)Since then, a small group has served there each Wednesday night, hauling one or two popcorn machines, a generator and other supplies to Pier A. More than a thousand bags of popcorn have been handed out so far, Anthony says. Like [Simple Service](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/power-simple-service/), it’s an opportunity to love and support the community.

A few weeks ago an entire dinner group helped out during the screening for “Star Wars: The Force Awakens.” It’s a good thing, too, because it was the largest crowd yet.

“We just kept making popcorn and the people kept coming for more,” says Victor, whose dinner group used the opportunity as an impact event. 

Matt, who has also helped hand out popcorn, says meeting other people while serving has been one of the most rewarding parts of the experience.

“Standing behind a crowded table slinging bags of popcorn around with some people is a way to get to know them,” he says.

Victor says it was fun to work together as a dinner group while also serving the Hoboken community. 

“It’s what being a Christian is all about: loving your neighbors as yourself,” he says.

People usually ask about Hoboken Grace and leave with info cards. Many are surprised that the popcorn is free and offer to pay, Matt says.

“I love when people come up and ask, ‘How much?’ and we tell them ‘It’s free,’” Anthony says. “They’re completely shocked. When they ask, ‘Why free?’ it’s a great opportunity to tell them about Hoboken Grace and how we strive to love our community any way we can.” 

_If you’re interested in serving at Movies Under the Stars this summer, email Anthony at_ [_anthony@hobokengrace.com_](mailto:anthony@hobokengrace.com) _with the Wednesday night dates you are available._

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Lights, Camera, Popcorn


Liberty in North Korea is one of Hoboken Grace’s longtime partners, and a missions team has worked with them in South Korea each year since 2013\. This week, the LiNK staff sent an email worth sharing, thanking those who visited in May and everyone from Hoboken Grace who has supported their work to settle refugees fleeing economic and political oppression.

“Just as the North Korean people were encouraged and empowered by our friends from Hoboken Grace, they find strength in our supporters from all over the world,” the staff said. “Thank you for the ways that you support North Korean people! Your partnership has an incredible impact and we are so grateful that you are part of the movement towards liberty in North Korea.”

LiNK also sent an [11-page newsletter](https://res.cloudinary.com/dzs7qxusf/image/upload/v1/archive/2016/07/Hoboken-Grace-Newsletter-2016.pdf) chronicling Hoboken Grace’s [most recent trip](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/new-beginnings-in-south-korea/), a week spent connecting with new friends, exploring a new culture and working with the organization’s staff.

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On their first day, the team presented a career mentorship workshop at LiNK’s Young Leaders Program. Nine North Korean-born students who are preparing for college are participating in this year’s program, a series of full-day workshops covering such topics as personal growth, professional skills development and career exploration. The four members of the Hoboken Grace team shared about their careers and the paths they took to get there, telling stories about studying Shakespeare before going into ministry, shooting videos for the NFL and providing financial support at an office.

The YLP fellows said the stories were interesting and inspiring.

“What left an impression on me was how each of the Hoboken Grace members bravely changed their career paths as they learned what they were good at, and how they consistently stayed true to who they were throughout the process,” said one fellow.

The team also led some of the LiNK staff members and interns in an empowerment workshop about healthy confrontation, schedule planning and work efficiency through games and team-building activities.

“Their teaching was very beneficial for us as a staff team to bond and learn more about how we can support one another,” the LiNK staff said. “It was also a fun time full of laughter!”

The newsletter also goes into detail about some of the food the team ate throughout their trip (pigs feet, boiled pork belly and noodles, tofu rice) and the people they met along the way. That included a baby who apparently was afraid of Anthony because he looked different from anyone she had ever met. (“But through his fun facial expressions and playfulness, she soon grew to trust him and the two became friends.”)

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The LiNK staff said the connection between North Korean refugees and those who support them only grew stronger during the trip. They were able to share meals, culture, laughter and so much more.

“Throughout your time with us, I was reminded that what is happening in North Korea is not just a Korean story, but a global story that calls out for people from all over the world to notice, stand up and speak out for freedom alongside the North Korean people,” said Sarah, a LiNK intern. “What a powerful thing when North Koreans and their supporters get to meet each other and witness this partnership in person! I felt very encouraged by this and by you, and I hope to see even more people around the world connect with North Korea in meaningful and impactful ways.”

The Hoboken Grace team [said they left feeling just as impacted and inspired](http://hobokengrace.com/blog/new-beginnings-in-south-korea/) by the stories they heard and the people they met.

So from LiNK and Hoboken Grace, thank you for helping us support North Korean refugees. We can’t wait to visit LiNK again next year.


A Bond That Spans Thousands of Miles

Two years ago, Sarah’s husband of eight years became very sick. He was in and out of the hospital, and in addition to caring for her spouse, Sarah had a 5-year-old daughter in need of extra love and reassurance.

“At home I had to have my brave, strong face on,” says Sarah. “In front of my husband and my daughter, I needed to hold it together.”

Thankfully, Sarah had a place where she didn’t have to tell people that she was doing “fine” – her women’s dinner group.

“My dinner group told me it was OK to have my weak, disheveled, scared face on if that’s what felt better,” says Sarah. “And those women loved me and prayed for me.”

Sarah has been married for over a decade now but is completely committed to her women’s dinner group. While Hoboken Grace offers couples the opportunity to join a couples group together, Sarah and many others continue to attend a group on their own.

“I need that freedom to fall apart,” says Sarah. “And while it is important that my husband and I grow together in our faith, it is also important that we grow separately. The more time I pursue Christ on my own, the more I recognize Him as my Savior and the one certainty in my life, and I don’t expect my husband to step into that impossible role.”

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Many men in our church family also find that their dinner group home continues to be with just guys even after their relationship status changes.

For Chad, the choice to stay in a men’s group is one he and his wife, Joanna, revisit every year.

“We’ve been married for almost three years, and almost every year we talk about joining a couples group, “ says Chad. “But in the end we always decide to join groups separately.”

For Chad, part of this decision comes down to his evolving understanding of what dinner group is all about.

“When I first joined a men’s group five years ago, I looked at it almost more like a class or a Bible study,” says Chad. “I thought it was for me — a place for me to learn and develop. I’ve come to understand that it is much more about what you contribute to the group than what you get out of it.”

Chad thinks that in a couples dinner group it would be very easy for him to make group about himself again, with every conversation coming back to his relationship.

“Right now, I’m the oldest guy and only married man in my dinner group,” says Chad. “I try to share my perspective and experiences and make it more about ministry and less about me.”

Matt, who has been married for almost two years, says he has stuck with men’s groups just because that is where he feels most comfortable sharing what is really going on in his life

“There are some things that I really need to talk about that I just wouldn’t bring up in a couples group,” says Matt. “But in my men’s group it feels safe to talk about those things, and I don’t have to explain myself – it’s understood.”

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Ben and Vanessa started attending a couples dinner group before their first Sunday at Hoboken Grace. They were dating at the time and were new to the area and looking for community and connection.

About a year in, Vanessa was invited to attend a women’s dinner group.

“I attended both a women’s and a couples group for a few weeks,” says Vanessa. “For me, it was much easier to get to know other women in the women’s group. I also found myself talking a lot more and about more personal things. There were times in the couples group when Ben would answer a question and I might have had something to say, but it felt like we had already had our turn to speak, so I let other couples share.”

After taking a short break from dinner group after her son was born, Vanessa is back in a women’s group. She is one of just two moms in the group and only a handful of married women. At first, she admits, she wasn’t sure she had found the right fit.

“I quickly realized though that I could hang out with other moms any time I wanted at the park,” says Vanessa. “Dinner group is an opportunity for me to witness how God works in all of us at every stage of our lives. I’m learning from all the women who aren’t at the stage that I’m at, and I hope that by sharing some of the things I’ve struggled with, they are getting a more complete picture of God, too.”

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